Freud once wrote, “Words were originally magic.” When working with challenging parents, it is good for counselors to know a few magic words. In this Session attendees will learn how to use their words (and thoughts) to connect with and influence parents. The presenters will review, demonstrate and discuss 10 influence strategies. Each strategy will be examined for cross-cultural goodness-of-fit. Attendees will leave with greater confidence in their ability to reach and influence challenging parents.
Challenging parents are defined as parents who are either defensive or resistant, or who have been mandated to counseling.
This educational session has four primary theoretical foundations:
These four theories are blended together to form an approach that emphasizes relational connection, collaborative problem formulation, and collaborative problem-solving
The educational content includes coverage of three relational attitudes and seven linguistically sophisticated methods for influencing parents.
The three relational attitudes are:
Internal linguistic reformulation.
Embracing radical acceptance during which counselors prepare to meet provocative or hostile parent verbalizations with acceptance and validation.
The seven methods for influencing parents include:
The best explanation.
Directing and not directing.
The “seven magic words”.
Participants will be able to describe three attitudes they need to hold to connect with challenging parents, as well as seven technical strategies for influencing parents.
Participants will articulate the cross-cultural validity of using specific counselor attitudes and techniques with parents.
Participants will gain confidence in their attitude and ability for working effectively with challenging parents.